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　　又是一年雙十一，我啥也沒買。光棍節，中國人的購物狂歡節，啥也不買，能不能做一個開心的光棍？答案是：能。為了給眾多自愿非自愿當光棍的群眾們寫這篇小文，我搜索了外網，看了看西方同志們對于光棍們應該如何開心活下去的方法。

　　讀了幾篇，發現都不咋靠譜，大多是打了雞血的雞湯，而且是大家喝過無數次卻也不怎么見效的那種。

　　然而，我依舊要分享給你們看看，雞湯畢竟是雞湯，在這個入夜漸微涼的初冬，來一碗還是必要的。

　　接下來的內容，英文部分節選，中文部分是我的翻譯。

　　所以，我們到底如何避免在孤獨又貧窮得無法購物的光棍節、無數個單身的日日夜夜里縱情狂歡，不再顧影自憐？

　　下面有7個小建議：

　　1. Stop the negative thinking. 停止消極想法

　　”Poor me. I’m single and everyone else around me is in relationship and they are ALL happier than me. Being single sucks.” This thought alone will keep you in the “being single sucks” mentality. It’s time to get out of it. When that thought comes in, tell it to stop. You are making assumptions that others are happy – remember that we all put on a happy face culturally, but it’s not necessarily the truth. There are many of people miserable and/or lonely in a relationship – I know, I used to be one of them.

　　“我真慘啊！沒對象，身邊的人都成雙入對，比我快樂多了。單身真倒霉！”這種想法本身就會讓你陷于“單身真倒霉”的消極思維中。

　　該走出來了。當那種想法出現的時候，告訴自己停下來。你以為別人是快樂的—其實我們經常出于禮貌擺出一副開心的樣子，但是很多時候那只是偽裝。

　　許多人處在痛苦而孤獨的戀愛關系中，因為我曾經就如此。

　　2. Create a healthy relationship with yourself. 跟自己建立一個健康的關系

　　Say, “I am complete and whole as I am” to yourself at the start of everyday. You are complete and whole as you are in a relationship or single – the choice is yours whether you see this or not.

　　在每一天的開始對自己說：“我是完整的，我就是我自己。” 無論你在戀愛還是單身，你都是完整的—不管你是否能看清這一點，選擇權都在你。

　　3. Build your tribe. 建立自己的圈子

　　Call people who you want to spend time with, don’t just expect others to reach out to you. Other people want to know that they are cared about too – and you can provide that care. Make plans with them. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to connect with people who are regularly “too busy.”

　　給你想要與其一起消磨時光的人打電話，不要指望著別人主動聯系你。別人也想得到你的關懷，而且你是能夠提供這樣的關懷的，跟他們約起來。

　　不要把時間浪費在總是說“我很忙”的人身上。

　　4. Make plans for the evening. 為夜晚的時光做規劃

　　Take a weekly creative art class, make a dinner plan, attend a community event, go to yoga, and more. I have 3 of my week nights planned with events that get me outside of my house (I work from home). They help me feel connected to people, laugh, and learn something new.

　　上上創意藝術課，寫一個晚餐菜單，參加一個社區活動，練練瑜伽或者其他。

　　我每周有三天的晚上都會出去（我在家辦公）。這些外出的夜晚讓我和人們建立起了聯系，我開心地學到了新東西。

　　5. Have a pet. 養個寵物

　　Pets are one of the best parts of being human – I believe! Coming home to a live being is incredibly fun and feeds that part of your heart that wants to love. My cat Dave greets me at the door every time I come in, he greets me in the morning when I wake up, and he’s always happy to be petted. He’s truly been one of the greatest gifts for opening my heart. If you’re allergic to furred animals – get a goldfish!

　　能夠擁有寵物是人類最幸福的事了—我堅信這一點！回到家擁抱一個生物真的太有趣了，也能夠填補內心缺愛的角落。

　　我的貓咪Dave在我每天回家的時候呆在門口歡迎我，我早上醒來的時候它會問候我，而且，它特別喜歡我的愛撫。它是打開我內心的最棒的禮物之一。

　　如果你對貓毛過敏可以養一條金魚。

　　6. Be present while you eat. 充分享受美食

　　Eating can be one of the “lonely” times being single. Choose it as a time to be present with your food. Look at your food, smell your food, enjoy the taste of your food. And finally, thank your food for sustaining your body.

　　吃飯是單身人士們最孤獨的時刻了。把這些時光充分利用起來，欣賞你的食物、感受它們的香氣，品嘗它們的美味。

　　最后，感謝治愈你身體的這些美食吧。

　　7. Know that you’re not alone. 要知道，你不是一個人

　　There are more and more people choosing the single lifestyle. They are choosing to not settle for less in a relationship, and finding happiness on their own – you can too. Don’t stay in an unhealthy relationship or search for a partner just to fill the “hole” inside you, because the hole isn’t going to be filled by them. It’s the hole of not feeling enough, that only YOU can fill by seeing and knowing that you’re enough as you are – with or without a partner.

　　越來越多的人自愿單身。他們選擇不再為了戀愛而戀愛，而是獨自尋找幸福。你也可以。

　　不要在一段不健康的關系中停留，也不要為了填補內心的空虛去找另一半，因為這個空虛是不會被這些人填滿的。

　　這份空虛來自于不滿足，只有你自己才能去填滿，而且你只要做自己就足夠了，有沒有伴侶都沒關系。

　　以上就是克服孤獨單身癥狀的幾個建議，我讀完之后還是覺得挺振奮。作為一個獨身多年的有經驗的老光棍，我真的覺得接受自己很必要，打開自己去和愛你的朋友們交流也很必要。